UNDERSTANDING AND WORKING WITH EMOTIONS

Oh emotions........its tuff to understand, as someone rightly  mentioned  "its easy for me to understand words than the unwritten expressions and fellings in the face."

Identifying, understanding and responding to the emotions of others are very important social skills for all of us to have. These skills help us to understand and develop relationships with other people. Not everybody responds to one emotion in the sameway.

When we know that someone we care about is sad, we might offer them a hug or a few kind supportive words to cheer them up. When we think that someone is afraid, we may try to comfort and support them. These types of interactions help us bond with each other.

Most of us learned skills such as how to “read” other people’s   facial expressions, voice and body gestures very easily and naturally when we were very young. We learned through social interactions with peers, parents and other adults. We somehow picked up this important social information without it being explicitly taught to us.

For our children with autism, identifying and understanding emotions does not come so easily. Most of the time our sweet hearts does not notice important nonverbal cues (such as the shape of a person’s eyebrows, the movements of the body or the tone and pace of the voice) that are used to tell the difference between emotions. Without being able to correctly identify and understand the emotions of others, children are more likely to respond inappropriately during interactions.

For our children, emotions must be taught explicitly or very clearly.

By four to six years old, most children can recognize and understand the basic emotions: happy, sad, angry and afraid. More complex emotions (such as pride, guilt and shame) are built on the basic emotions. A child should have a good understanding of the basic emotions before she is introduced to the more complex emotions.

As a parent, and teacher we can try these games and activities with your  child to introduce and practice the recognition of emotions.

1.  Bringing your child’s attention to emotions

Our children need to be taught to look at faces to get social information. Find as many opportunities as possible for your child to practice recognizing, labeling and responding to her/his own emotions, as well as other people’s emotions. Here are a couple of examples:

• If your child is angry because she cannot have a second candy, say, “You are angry right now because you want another candy and I said ‘No’. Your hands are folded and you are using a big, loud voice.”
• If your child is happy that she gets to colour, say, “You are happy because you get to colour.” Your mouth is smiling and your eyes are big and wide. You are using a happy voice.

Use naturally occurring opportunities to help your child recognize emotions. When someone in your child’s environment is expressing an emotion, point this out for her/him and say, “Look, Liki is smiling. She feels happy.”

Here are some other suggestions:

J While watching TV or videos use your remote control to pause a scene and point out and label a specific emotion.

J When someone (family members, teachers, friends, etc) is expressing an emotion, use this opportunity to label the particular emotion

2.  Learning the Names of Emotions

Once your child is looking closely at faces, it is time to teach the names of the emotions. Start with the basic emotions: happy, sad, angry, and afraid.

• Start by using realistic photos or concrete pictures. You can use familiar faces through photographs, pictures from magazines, etc.
• Show your child a picture and label it, “happy”, “sad”, etc. Depending on your child’s ability, you could say, “The boy is feeling happy.”
• Place two different emotion pictures on the table in front of your child and ask her to point to or give you an emotion (e.g., you can say “Give me a happy face”). At first, you may need to help your child give you the correct picture.
• When your child can select the correct picture without any help, introduce a new emotion.
• Increase the number of pictures your child has to choose from until there are four different emotion pictures for her/him to choose from.
• When your child has learned the names of the basic emotions using realistic pictures, use a variety of other pictures and drawings of emotions to help her/him “generalize” the emotion and the name. In other words, to recognize the emotion on different faces and in various settings.

3.  Saying the Names of Emotions

When your child knows the names of the four basic emotions, it is time for her to try to say the names.

• Show your child a picture of someone expressing an emotion and ask, “How is she feeling?”
• You might have to help your child at first by saying (modeling) the name of the emotion for her to copy.
• Introduce a new emotion when your child can successfully label the emotion on which you are working.

4.  Acting out the Emotions

Now it is time for your child to try acting out the emotions.

• Stand in front of a mirror with your child and take turns “making faces”. For example, make an angry face and ask, “How do I feel”? If your child can label your emotion, tell her, “Now you make an angry face”.
• Explain to your child what you are doing to make the emotion (“My eyes are getting smaller and my mouth is getting tight, like a little ball”).

5.  Role Playing

Depending on your child’s ability, you could try to “role play” situations in which certain emotions are likely to be felt. For example, you could pretend that you are going to buy ice cream and feel happy about this.

• Take turns with your child acting and guessing the emotions.
• Use exaggerated nonverbal language, gestures and facial expressions at first. As your child becomes more comfortable with recognizing emotions, you can act more naturally.
• Set up dramatic play situations at home to practice expressing and recognizing emotions.

6.  Video Modeling

Many children love to watch TV. You can use this interest to help teach your child more about emotions.

• Make short videos of other adults or children expressing an emotion in an appropriate situation.
• Watch the video with your child and help her label the emotion.
• Point out the important features such as the shape of the mouth, eyes and eyebrows, specific body movements and gestures and the sound of the voice.

7.  Games

If you child enjoys playing board games, use this great opportunity to practice what you’ve already taught about emotions.

8.  Story books

Books are another great way to help your child learn about other people’s emotions in different situations. Look for books with your child’s favorite television or movie character to make the learning fun. Here are a few other books that you may find helpful to read with your child

  take a safe flight to emotions tour , go get ready. I could see you guys packing  your bags!!!!!!!!!!!!! all the best